Managing a Discord server is a hard challenge

You look at the title of this post (or it in its URL) and go "Is this based on...?" or "This is related to ..., right?", or the like.

If you have any sort of rhetorical questions like those, the answer that I can provide is yes. Of all things, managing a Discoed server that you own is a challenge. However, it's not just any challenge. It's one HELL of a challenge. I'm not really a stranger to managing a Discord server and it being a challenge, because apart from moderating people who are causing a disruption, I find it to be an allure. 

I own two Discord servers: one that started as a public shitpost server as "Flare's Memes" which later became "Monster Vibe Realm" and then "Voidstate of Venaphase" transitioning to a community server, and another which is a selective-access version of that for my friends. The beauty of it being a challenge that server management is allows me to find and improvise ways to make a Discord server better; not to make it a big server, but to potentially make it a bit more active than it is which inevitably will lead to more members. 

But sadly, there are a lot of gripes to managing a server. Not only do you have to constantly moderate it the more people there are and the less staff you have, but when it comes to just even a selective-access friend server like mine, there's still a beef duality involved. This duality is where one time all of your friends in the server are chilling in harmony, not causing a ruckus, but another time, one of your friends end up leaving the server because of another friend being in the server as well. As someone who's seen this happen with two people in both servers I own because of two other people, this would've been solved of both parties from each server actually talked things out to solve these differences, but sadly their beef (which I really hate to call it beef but I don't really know what word would match this sort of dislike between two people) will persist because they refuse to do so. With that, trying to manage a friend server in this regard isn't entirely impossible, but it's impossible if it means friends leaving because of friends.